Joyful Co-creating

My girlfriend is still listening to The Vortex, and finding it a great way to improve her attitude, if only temporarily. It's those little temporary shifts that add up to feeling good in general, and I'm glad she's getting a lot out of it. Perhaps I'll listen to a little Abraham-Hicks material while I paint today; I probably need it after the blog post of despair I just published.

I told her I'd like to do some conscious co-creating with her, and she wanted to know how that's accomplished. Honestly, I don't think there's an actual process they've published on how to do that. And I think we do a pretty good job of it naturally--we talk about what we want to do together and separately, and we bring lots of good stuff into our relationship in that way.

We've had several relationship talks since she's moved in, and they all have been very satisfying. We sincerely hope for the best for ourselves and each other, and have painted a detailed picture of how we'd like to interact in our relationship in an ongoing way. It's working out well so far. I think what I want to add to that is a picture of what we'll look like in five or ten years. Not in a way that binds us together for better or worse--we both want the other to have the freedom to walk away if it's what's best for her. Rather, in a way allows us to bring to ourselves and our relationship the lives we've always wanted.

It's not just about how we interact, either. We talk about places we want to visit and things we want to do, activities we'd like to do regularly or semi-regularly. Little things like going out dancing with friends; restaurants and wine bars we'd like to try. Classes and hobbies that would pique both our interests, or just one while the other stands by and encourages. Financial goals. Personal development goals.

I think one way to make it a more conscious process would be to write this stuff down as it occurs to us. We're both fans of list-making; perhaps we'll add a joint list to our separate ones.

She has an on-again, off-again pen pal since high school in Malaysia, and visiting her is on her travel list. Perhaps we could combine that with my desire to go to Thailand and see the painting elephants. Maybe that could go on our joint list.

What do you think, sweetie?